Frientimacy™ - Ten Ways to Improve Your Friendships and Deepen Your Life

At a time when our Facebook friend count is growing rapidly, so is our loneliness.

Our loneliness, largely unacknowledged, isn't so much from not knowing enough people as much as it is from not feeling known by a few people. With frequent moves, constant job changes, and significant life changes like marriage, motherhood, and divorce shifting our friendships, we are lacking the deep, meaningful, and intimate friendships we crave.

Frientimacy highlights the common experience of loneliness due to friendships lacking depth and establishes the metaphor of our relationships as the gyms for where we do our most significant personal growth for the purpose of having deeper and more fulfilling friendships. Exploring the ten most common complaints and conflicts facing female friendships today, Shasta Nelson, invites women to move closer to each other instead of heeding the popular advice of pulling away from any friendship that isn't instantly and constantly gratifying. As we lean in, before pulling away, we do the personal growth that can only be done in relationship.

In her first book Friendships Don't Just Happen! the author taught women to become initiators to start new friendships as adults; now she teaches them how to transform the superficial into the intimate, the shallow into the deep, and the unhealthy into the healthy.

About The Author

Shasta Nelson, M.Div., friendship expert and CEO of (a female friendship matching site in 50 cities across the U.S and Canada), blogs weekly at Shasta's Friendship Blog to over 40,000 subscribers.

A few of the TV shows she's been on include The Today Show, Katie Couric's Show, The Early Show, and Fox Business. She's relied upon by writers and reporters from such magazines as Cosmopolitan, Essence, Parents, More, Redbook, Good Housekeeping, and Glamour, and has been highlighted in such newspapers as The New York Times, Chicago Tribune, the San Francisco Chronicle.


Stalked and Ambushed The True Story of the Hellish "Astronaut Love Triangle"

Air Force Captain Colleen Shipman escaped what could have been a gruesome death after she was attacked by married NASA Astronaut Lisa Nowak, who was obsessed with Shipman's boyfriend, Space Shuttle Pilot William Oefelein. Rejected by Oefelein, Nowak was unable to accept that an illicit affair would not develop, and she snapped into a psychotic rage. On February 3, 2007, after weeks of tedious planning, a jealous Nowak embarked on a mission to kidnap, terrorize and (perhaps) kill Colleen Shipman.

Jaws dropped worldwide when the news hit. Lisa Nowak, a NASA astronaut sat in jail, charged with attempted murder, attempted kidnapping, burglary and assault. Nowak, a Navy Captain and married mother of three, abandoned her family and prestigious career and took several weeks to plan her mission to confront Shipman. Driving eleven hours from Houston, Texas to Orlando, Florida, her plan was to intercept Shipman.

Lurking in the shadows of the Orlando International Airport, in the middle of the night, the most unlikely criminal of our time watched Shipman and waited for the opportune moment to strike in a dark parking lot. In her possession was a "murder kit"-a 4-inch buck knife, a BB gun, rubber tubing, a steel drilling hammer, latex gloves and garbage bags. Nowak chased Shipman to her car and blasted her with pepper spray before Shipman, blinded, choking and flailing, could speed away. Nowak was later found by police as she tried to toss her grim collection of weapons.

Most unfortunate for Nowak in her journey to attack Shipman was her choice to not stop to use the toilet along her route, choosing instead to urinate into diapers. In fact, police found two used diapers in her car, along with a supply of clean ones.

The crime sends a shockwave through the space and military communities and dominated headlines. Journalists couldn't get enough of what they dubbed "The Astronaut Love Triangle." For over four years, while the wheels of civilian and military justice were grinding, Colleen bit her tongue as reporters degraded her boyfriend, defended Nowak and even suggested that Shipman has lied. This event threw NASA into a tailspin, and it changed three lives forever.

This story reveals the months-long lead up to the crime, the emotional toll on all three parties, and the high price Colleen Shipman paid for telling the truth. An array of powerful forces pressured her to tilt the story in directions of their choosing, but Shipman stuck to the facts. Here she will not only present them all in this grimly ironic love story-a fairy tale romance that landed Shipman in the crosshairs of danger, provoked Nowak's psychotic episode, and left William Oefelein grasping for explanations of Nowak's behavior-she will add the emotional and personal details that courts may not need, but readers do.

The reader will gain a rounded human perspective on what has only been a tawdry news story and fodder for comedians until now. We will learn how patience and love helped Colleen Shipman reclaim peace and stability, liberating her from her prison of nightmares and hyper-vigilance following the attack and erroneous public revelations of a love triangle, and how faith in God guided her through the aftermath of one of the nation's most intriguing crimes.

Colleen and Bill married August 14, 2010, and now reside in Alaska.

It Only Takes One

The inspirational teen memoir of young scientist Jack Andraka who recently discovered an early detection test for several different types of cancer.

While sitting in his high school biology class one day, Jack Andraka sparked an idea for a test that could potentially detect pancreatic cancer early on. After the death of a family friend who had recently died of the disease, Jack recognized the need for inexpensive early detection methods. At the age of fifteen, Jack came up with a detection test that costs only three cents to run and has an accuracy rate higher than 90 percent. The test has the ability to detect pancreatic, ovarian, and lung cancer in its earliest stages.

Jack's groundbreaking results have earned him international recognition, most notably earning the $75,000 2012 Intel Gordon E. Moore Award, the Smithsonian American Ingenuity Award, and he was the First Lady's personal guest at the State of the Union Address. He has conducted over a dozen TED talks and has been featured on CNN, BBC, FOX, 60 Minutes, The Colbert Report, and ABC World News with Diane Sawyer.

Now in his upcoming memoir "It Only Takes One" the boy wonder sets his sights on shattering educational myths and biases by bringing his inspirational story to millions proving that you don't need a PhD or even be old enough to drive a car to change the world.

"It's just your ideas that count. It's all about looking at learning and the internet in an entirely new way to realize there's so much more to it than just posting duck-face pictures of yourself online. You could be changing the world."

Jack's message of education reform is one that is sorely needed in today's classrooms where students' proficiency in reading, math and science continues dropping.

"Currently, science classes typically consist of banal consumption and regurgitation of facts. However, this model for science education is simply not effective because it skews students' perception of what science truly is. Science is something you do, not something that you learn from a text book."

Growing up in a house where his parents encouraged and nurtured their children to conduct scientific experiments, Jack grew up taking himself and his abilities seriously. But while he took his work seriously, the scientific world was hesitant at first. After contacting 200 research professionals with a detailed plan, budget, timeline and request to use their laboratory, Jack finally received a response of acceptance from Dr. Anirban Maitra, Professor of Pathology, Oncology and Chemical and Biomolecular Engineering at John Hopkins School of Medicine. Jack only received one acceptance letter-but one was all he needed.

Jack's memoir chronicles his efforts in proving his abilities and innovative ideas, despite his young age. Targeted toward a teenage readership, Jack's story will inspire young people everywhere to fight for the right to be heard and taken seriously. It will also be a valuable tool to teachers and parents looking to help their kids reach their potential. Jack encourages his generation to approach their pursuits, whatever they may be, with an attitude of determination and gumption.

"If a 15-year-old who didn't even know what a pancreas was could find a new way to detect pancreatic cancer, just imagine what you could do."

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Watch: Jack Andraka TED Talk